To the few who have broken my heart, I'm not here to bash your reputation, but thank you and apologize for any pain I may have caused you in return . . .
Dear [insert your name],
Thank you for breaking my heart; I'm not being facetious. I truly am thankful for the memories we once made, but am even more grateful for you letting me go. Yes, maybe at the time I felt as though my world was crashing down around me, but little did I know, picking up those broken pieces of my world would be life-changing experiences to rediscover who I am.
I appreciate your honest realizations that we were not meant to be, because it allowed both of us to move on and pursue the paths God had in store for us. I truly believe people come in to our lives for a reason, and I have no doubt there are many reasons you came in to mine. If anything, you taught me how to express myself in difficult situations, live with loving self-less intent, and how to let go. Because of my experiences with you, I was able to discover what qualities I do and do not want in a future relationship. No person or relationship is perfect, but due to these imperfections we are able to better understand ourselves and others to then better our futures. So thank you for sharing a piece of yourself with me, whether it was long-term or short lived, I am forever grateful to have shared that time with you.
Now, let me take a moment to apologize to you . . . I have the greatest respect for you, but I admit in times of deep pain I may not have portrayed you in the best light and therefore caused you to feel pain. There's no excuse for causing others distress, so all we can do is acknowledge, apologize, and repent. Hurt people hurt people. If you have not heard this phrase before, remember it, because it couldn't be more true. Yes, you may have hurt me because you were once hurt, but then the vicious cycle has continued as I have hurt you; and for that, I am deeply sorry. Yes, I may be angry for the pain you once caused me, but I'm working through it and all I can ask for is grace and forgiveness. None of us are perfect, and it is human nature that we are bound to hurt people along the way, whether we intentionally mean to or not, but it does not make it right. I believe we need to own up to our wrongdoings and I fully own my mistakes and actions which may have caused you pain, whether I knew they would or not. Whether we are still part of each other's lives or are far removed, I will always be grateful for the time we once were.
I have never believed in being regretful of any decision we make, because each success or failure leads us to who we are becoming. Moving forward, I am making an effort to live with loving self-less intent, and to forgive those who have hurt me. We must let go of our angers, our fears, and our grudges to free ourselves to only live with the intention of love.
Sincerely,
me